You Are Amazing.

I took these pictures last night after I got out of the shower. I looked into the mirror and laughed at my raccoon eyes. I started thinking about how many times I used to look into the mirror and hate what I saw. I remember looking and being so disgusted. My nose was too big, my eyelashes were too short, my hair was too frizzy, my teeth were too small. The list got longer and longer. 

You know what I realized afterwards? It's been nearly a year since I've looked into the mirror and absolutely hated what I saw. I no longer look in the mirror and continually stare like I used to. That girl who used to cry if her hair looked bad was gone. 

I never realized how detrimental those thoughts and "I'm so ugly" comments were until they stopped. I never realized how being so self-deprecating could ruin beautiful memories in your life. I remember looking at old photos and not remembering anything about the moment that was captured except for how I looked. Memories are tarnished and are impossible to clean if your mind is full of these damaging thoughts. I am so glad that those constant thoughts are behind me. They occasionally creep in and tap me on the shoulder, but I stick my tongue out at them and go on with my day. 

I realized that being pretty didn't mean anything. Sure, you may get more dates or boyfriends. Maybe I'm not conventionally pretty. Maybe I'm not a bombshell. You know what? I am okay with that. I used to only care if guys liked me. I just wanted one to look me in the eyes and sincerely tell me I was beautiful. You know what? That hasn't happened. And you know what else? I'm perfectly okay with it.

I was told for years that no guy would like me until I liked myself first. I spent my whole first year of college liking myself. The funny thing about it is, I suddenly stopped caring what boys thought of me during this time. I started liking myself because of myself. I was no longer motivated by anything except for peacefulness and happiness. I just wanted to feel happy. I found this happiness. I found how to be truly happy. I've grown so much as a person this past year. I'm at a point in my life I never thought I'd be at. If you told me a year and a half ago to go out in public without makeup and my hair down, I would've probably started crying. Well guess what past self, you went out today with no makeup and your hair down, and you still got smiled at and people still talked to you. You were okay. And you will be okay.

You know what I realized in this time of growth? I'll list some of them below.

1. Writing poems is a good way to release feelings.
2. Getting lunch with someone is a lot more fun than getting lunch alone.
3. Your face is thankful that you aren't wearing makeup everyday.
4. Almost Famous lights a fire in me that I never knew was possible.
5. With a little dedication, you can accomplish what you set your mind to.
6. Instant hot chocolate tastes so much better with milk.
7. I forget the world exists while I'm in antique stores/thrift shops.
8. Mom jeans from the 90s fit your body much better than those low rise things.
9. You don't have a consistent jean size. Because jean sizes are kablooey. 
10. I can make macaroni and cheese.
11. I don't have many friends, but the few I do have mean more to me than anything in this whole world and I would go to the ends of the earth for them. I thank God everyday for you all. Like, I want to personally go to your door and give you a big bear hug. You have no idea how much you mean to me. 
12. You aren't going to suffer forever. 
13. Not everyone thinks hairless cats are cute.
14. Loving everyone does nothing but improve your life. 
15. Wear heels.
16. Compliment people.
17. You can dress like Penny Lane if you want to. (I just love Almost Famous, y'all.)
18. School work is important but don't let it define your life. Make time for friends and for schoolwork.
19. If it's not funny, don't feel obligated to laugh.
20. Dance whenever you see Christmas lights or hear Hotline Bling.
21. Stare at every dog or cat you see as long as you can.
22. Writing letters/poems to people even if they never know about it feels so good. (I get it now, Taylor Swift. I completely understand.)
23. Get mozzarella sticks and eat them in your car while pretending you're singing a duet with Toby Keith. 
24. Create art all the time. Draw what you want and anything that inspires you. Surround yourself with people who push you to be better in your art and as a person. 
25. Be unapologetically yourself. You will find people who appreciate you for who you are.

It took me nearly 20 years to learn all of this. Life is beautiful. There is more positive happening than negative. Tell your friends and family you love them. Draw pictures of someone you admire and send it to them. (Thank you Patrick Fugit for always liking my drawings of you, you make my heart happy.) Tell people thank you. Listen when others are talking to you. Give people compliments about their character rather than their appearance. Run in a field whenever you can. Take pictures and scrapbook them. Hug somebody. 

Whatever you do, don't ever look in a mirror and hate yourself. There are so many things inside you that make you a great person. When you look in the mirror, look for those things. And I promise you will be happy. 

Have a great night. I hope you have a duet with Toby Keith soon.

<3 Rachel